Everyone loves a good old moan.
Whether it’s about your friends, diet or work – people complain about just about anything. You know what, though? It kinda makes you a downer and not a great person to be around.
Of course, everything in moderation, but when you start slipping, going days without much positivity coming out of your mouth, then maybe it’s time to reevaluate your behaviour because that shit ain’t healthy.
So, because I want you to be the best, happiest you, here are some of my personal tips for being a more positive and happier person.
1. Remove toxic people from your digital life
If you get annoyed every time you see Pete tweet or share something because you think Pete is an arsehole, then delete Pete from your feeds.
You’re making yourself angry by having people you hate on your Facebook/Twitter/Instagram etc. Once you remove them, you’ll soon forget all the hate and think only about how much you love all your true BFFLs.
2. Take responsibility for your actions
It’s easy to blame other people for the shitty things that happen in our lives, but it doesn’t do any good for anyone. Sure, blaming your 5-year-old sister for breaking the lamp when you were a child is a different ball game, but we’re not kids anymore.
Constantly blaming others won’t solve your problems or make you feel good. Owning up and taking responsibility for your own life will rid you of negative vibes towards others and eventually, you’ll take control over your life and be #living.
3. Smile more
I apologise if you have a resting bitch face, I’m not trying to #faceshame you, but smiling more is key to being happier and probably more approachable.
Sure, shoving a smile on your face isn’t always easy, but sometimes you have to fake it ’till you make it. Also, it’s been scientifically proven to lift your mood, and who am I to question science?
4. Count your blessings
We all get wrapped up in our own issues and I’ve been especially guilty of this. Make a list (IRL or in your head) of all the things that you’re thankful for in your life.
It could be something as simple, but important, as having food in the cupboards. It could be your health, your PS4 or a loved one. Whatever it is, remembering that you have a good or not-so-bad life can make the bad things seem much more irrelevant.
5. Go outside
You know what makes me feel down? The four walls of my bedroom. I spent two and a half months staring at them when I was unemployed post-uni and it was awful for my mental health.
Go outside. Go for a walk. Go to the pub. I don’t care where it is, just get outside and see the sky (as the sun is usually a little bit temperamental in the UK). It will make you feel better.
6. Stop dwelling on things
Yeah, you know what sucks? Sucky things. Like breaking up with someone, not getting your dream job, getting a bad grade, getting made redundant. I dealt with all four of those things within literally two days and you know what I did, got on with it.
Yeah shit sucks, but if you dwell on it then you don’t move forward onto better things, you get stuck in the past and there ain’t no one coming in a time machine to rescue you. It’s okay to be sad, but dwelling on it isn’t going to do anything for ya. (please refer to point 2.)
7. Don’t consume toxic things
If you read The Daily Mail every day, then you will be the angriest, most hateful, bigoted human being on the planet. Mix up what you consume. If you watch positive things, you will have positive thoughts. If you constantly watch/read negativity, then you’ll think the world is a pile of trash and treat it as such.
Of course, you shouldn’t be ignorant to the bad things that happen in the world, but that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t ever watch things that give you that warm and tingly feeling inside – and no, I don’t mean porn!
Just as a disclaimer, this post isn’t aimed at people who are suffering from chronic depression or any other serious mental health issues that cause depression. This is a light-hearted post intended for people who have the means to change their negativity in a few easy steps. I hate that I have to disclaim that, but there you go.
What things do you do to be a happier person? Let me know in the comments below or tweet me @amyjmcdonnell 🐦